I was recently at a birth of a devout Catholic. During contractions, the mother would alternate between stating her birth affirmations and praying.
Our Father, Who art in Heaven
Hallowed be thy name;
Thy kingdom come,
Thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
This beautiful submission to her faith, her God, gave her the strength she needed to endure labor. She was able to let go and trust in her body. While I helped her with hip squeezes, I felt the calm stillness of a holy place in the room. It was amazing.
Birth is a sacred event. A new life is beginning, which in and of itself is sacred. But the trust the birthing woman needs to have in her body is also on the holy realm. She needs to have faith that she can give birth and needs to let go to a higher power. Whether that power is called God, Allah, Goddess, Jesus Christ, Great Spirit, or just Other, the letting go and having faith is what needs to happen.
There aren’t too many times in our modern-day lives that we encounter the type of out-of-body experience that birth puts us in. Interacting in certain athletic endeavors can do it, as can certain religious activities. The mental part of us needs to let go and let our body do what it already knows how to do. The faith in our bodies is what allows us to do the unbelievable.
I wish I could tell you that birth is easy. But it’s not. It’s going to require you to get to the point where you don’t think you can cope anymore. Every woman has a moment (or more) where she doesn’t think she can do it – where the pain is too much. This is the time that faith is especially needed. Most of the time, that point where we don’t think we can go on is right at transition; it’s the point right before pushing where the body makes a big leap. Having faith that the unbearable can be endured is crucial to getting to the part where you birth your baby.
In the months before your due date, you can practice this letting go. One of the best ways to do this is through prenatal yoga. Yoga offers the unique combination of stillness of the mind and challenge of the body. You will practice holding uncomfortable poses while focusing your mind to be comfortable with them. It also is excellent for stretching aching muscles and having a time to concentrate on the life you’re growing inside you.
You can also prepare yourself by meditating with birth affirmations or taking a calm walk. Any time you are alone with your head and body can be an opportunity to check in and remind yourself that you believe in you. You know that your body is capable of giving birth. You truly are amazing.
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